|
Fall Resolutions
I love the fall. I love the weather, I love the clothes, I love the fresh start feel of it all. I know New Years Eve is when most people make their annual resolutions, but I have always made mine in September. Each year I would think, THIS year I will change my patterns: work harder, lose weight, and exercise more. So as I face a new September with my list of self-improvements, I have started thinking about why we do things that are not good for us, and resist the things that are?
There are so many answers and so many different levels of consciousness: We are stuck in a behavioral rut, we are afraid of failure, we are afraid of success. However I think the real reason is that there are feelings we don't want to feel, and our resistance is a form of protection from some old buried unfelt experiences. This is also why it is so hard to change some behaviors. The addiction doesn't create the sabotage, the discomfort of the feelings do. When you are free to feel whatever you feel without judgment or interpretation, you are truly free to behave any way you want.
This leads me to a deeper question. Why can't we accept ourselves exactly as we are? Why do we feel we need to be different to be loved and accepted? I spent an entire afternoon on the beach yesterday with my teacher, friend, and mentor, discussing how you go about accepting things EXACTLY as they are, without judgment or interpretation. What would life be like if you could just be yourself without hiding or shame?
My upcoming blogs and evening seminars are going to be focused on this challenge. How can we just be who we are?
|
